Dropped Threads

A priori - From what comes before.
What I remember most about emotional abuse is that it’s like being put in a box. How you end up in there is the biggest trick – I never managed to work that one out. Maybe you think it’s a treasure box at first: you’re in there because you’re special. Soon the box starts to shrink. Every time you touch the edges there is an “argument”. So you try to make yourself fit. You curl up, become smaller, quieter, remove the excessive, offensive parts of your personality – you begin to notice lots of these. You eliminate people and interests, change your behaviour. But still the box gets smaller. You think it’s your fault. The terrible, unforgivable too-muchness of you is to blame. You don’t realise that the box is shrinking, or who is making it smaller. You don’t yet understand that you will never, ever be tiny enough to fit, or silent enough to avoid a row


In October. To the best person ever.
We’re eloping, just going to take off for the weekend and come back married. It’s not on FB yet, so please don’t holler any congratulations at me there:)

But that’s a thing!


“When there is pleasure, there is often abandon, and mistakes are made.”
— Dave Eggers, What Is the What

This is the perfect lead in - hey guys, I’m getting married in October.

Think about it: Most people back then had limited interactions with people from China and other Asian countries. So playwrights and writers had to come up with a shorthand way of saying, “This is Chinese; this is Asian.” This building of a viewpoint — a viewpoint that in many ways is still with us, that people of Asian descent are intrinsically foreign — is echoed time and time again in various cartoons from the early 1900s that feature the riff: Someone, somewhere decided that this short musical phrase — and others like it — could represent an entire region or identity. And it stuck.

How The ‘Kung Fu Fighting’ Melody Came To Represent Asia : Code Switch : NPR


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Yes!! I found this story so interesting this morning. I did a project in film music class in college on Aladdin, and it was pretty notable that Aladdin the character was given themes clearly marked out as Western—and how many of the minor characters, particularly those marked as bad guys, were given the kind of Arab shorthand equivalent of the “Kung Fu Fighting” music. While Disney was being called out for explicit racism in the lyrics, most people weren’t bothering to comment on the much more subtle game they were playing with the score—one that was likely just upholding old prejudiced musical cues that developed in a similar way to this “Asian” theme.

Also I just tried to listen to the Aladdin soundtrack and heard Robin Williams and had to turn it off before I started crying in public.

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The use of musical shorthand to signify entire cultures goes back to the classical era. Different cultures over time have been the “go-to” foreign sound. In Mozart’s era it was “Turkish” music and a vague, undefined east that was used - see for example his famous “rondo a la turk” and the Opera “The Escape from the Saraglio.”

In the late nineteenth century the new fashion was “Orientalism” which you saw in many extremely popular Operas of the day with varying success - such a Gilbert and Sullivan’s “The Mikado” and Puccini “Madame Butterfly.” Both these opera were set in Japan, but either had western protagonists as well or were a send up of European culture.

Puccini china-set final Opera “Turandot” is a perfect example of a western composer integrating what he thought was “asian” sounds into his music and using specific musical short hard to do it.

To understand this, you have to know that most western music is based on what’s a scale with seven notes in it (do re mi fa so la ti). Most eratern music is not and is instead based on a Pentatonic scale (do re so la ti). You can play one easily yourself by just playing the black keys on a piano.

In Turandot, Puccini used Penatonic scales all over the place, and the result is beautiful and still not so overly “oriental” that it becomes an offensive pastiche.

Composers all over use short hand in the forms of certain scales, keys, chords and intervals to communicate certain cultures - but it often requires the listener to recognize the “code.” For instance, the opening lines of “Blue Skies” by Irving Berlin were written in a way that was meant to sound “Jewish” (Given that Irving Berlin was a Russian Jew, this is understandable) and the listeners back in the 1920s would have known and heard that.

All in all a fascinating subject!

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This is the first thing I read on the internet this morning.

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Ok so…why do soccer players fall down and grab their legs for nothing, but keep running like NOTHING happened when their skulls crack together?

The Coach of the US Soccer Team Wrote You a Note To Get Out of Work

Jürgen Klinsmann says you’re welcome.

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Truth - In high school we got days off when the Canadian Olympic hockey teams were going for their gold medals. 
My school also played the games (his and hers!) on that huge projector thing in the gym so everyone could watch together. 2002 was allllllright.

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I’m having a really hard time with 30 year old women who can’t date today.

If you can’t get it together, don’t expect some stranger to get it together for you. If you’re too afraid to ask for what you want from a man (for fear of upsetting some delicate ego balance), you don’t deserve it. And if he thinks you’re “crazy” and “stage 5” for having to answer some basic questions about dating you, then fuck him (or…don’t!). And vice versa.

You don’t mope around your workplace wondering when your next shift is - you ask your boss for a schedule and show up. EVEN IF YOU’RE NEW. Or…especially if you’re new. RIGHT?


i’m raging out.

But then they go on to explain what they support and live by — it’s feminism exactly. I think some big actors and musicians feel like they have to speak to their audience and that word is confusing to their audience. But I don’t get it. That’s like someone being like, “I don’t really believe in cars, but I drive one every day and I love that it gets me places and makes life so much easier and faster and I don’t know what I would do without it.”
Amy Poehler (x)

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Um. We adopted a sweetie pie.
Her name is Elaine Benice aka Ellie.